"Are they twins?"

Some people that have multiples get sick of being asked about them. I don't. I've always thought twins were very cool and I can understand other's curiosity. Comments like "Double Trouble" aren't very inventive, but I don't get upset by them. When people tell me "Better you than me," I simply agree. Because I could not imagine my life without twins. They now define a large part of who I am. So I have absolutely no problem discussing if they are identical or fraternal with you. I'm happy to debate with you about the pros and cons of having two at one time versus two of different ages. And yes, please tell me about your own twins experience. I love to commiserate with parents in the same boat as me, or who are just entering the twins arena with infants. I also really enjoy talking with parents who "survived" having twins. And I am happy to hear from twins that can tell me a little about what may be going on inside my boys' heads. But I am so grateful that the comparisons to Jon & Kate plus Eight and Octomom have stopped. I don't know why anyone would think that two babies is in any way similar. I think IVF is a wonderful thing. And I absolutely would have done IVF if it was the only way to bring my babies into this world. But I would NEVER put my babies at risk by implanting so many embryos.

And why do people feel the need to "argue" with me about my twins. A typical conversation with a stranger when they were first born went something like this..."Are they twins?" "Yes they are." "Are they identical?" "No, they're fraternal." "But they look so much alike." "Well, they are brothers..." Nowadays we get a much more mixed reaction. Some people still ask if they are identical. Most people still ask if they are twins. But every once in a while someone will insist that they can't be twins because one is so much bigger than the other. This one always cracks me up. At their last check-up, they were about a pound different in weight and a quarter inch different in height.

People also ask me a lot if these are our only children. Yes they are. Not because they are a handful and we'd never think about having more children. But because I cannot risk another pregnancy. It wouldn't be fair to the children we already have. Does it make me sad? Of course it does. There is a big difference between choosing not to have any more children and having the decision made for you. But I have come to terms with it and I am so grateful that we got two for one.